BY PAMELA JO BOWMAN, MESA ARIZONA – They say it is life affirming when people ask what you would like for your birthday and they honor your requests. It is totally validating to have your needs and wants acknowledged. It’s something else when they totally ignore you.

Today, my friends, gave me a “surprise” luncheon. Months ago, I requested a small dignified outing with a “few” close friends. They invited everyone, even people I didn’t know. Some arrived wearing funeral attire. Now I ask you, where is the love?!?

I was equally clear about what I wanted tomorrow. I requested pizza, root beer, chocolate cake and sitting with my family to watch the first LOST episode of the season. I have been told that won’t be happening either.

When I was younger, I was always told that was the best part of growing older. When you reach the 50-year-milestone, they always said, you can finally do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

Guess I must not really be 50, yet!

Or maybe I am living my own episode of “lost” in my own life. Either way, I do appreciate those who care enough to give me a call or send me a card, even if it is attached to a toilet seat night light!